Tuesday, August 6, 2013

//Dealing With a Speech Delay//

Asher is about to turn one.  It's right around the corner and I'm honestly in a bit of shock over it.  I'm also nervous.  It was only after Elliot turned one that I began to notice something.  I began to notice he didn't really say any words.  Everyone assured me that it was no big deal, but I think I just knew.  We are about to enter the same territory with Asher- listening for the words to slowly begin.  Listening for the "mamas" and the "dadas" to become clearer and to hear the their favorite toys spoken by name. "ball!" "block!'

In all honesty,  I'm nervous I won't hear it or I'll think I'm hearing it.  Asher was playing with the ball yesterday and I repeated the name for him and out of nowhere I heard "ball."  It wasn't said with super clarity, but he definitely attempted it.  I immediately began to cry.  It was so beautiful to hear the word.  Such a simple word, but perfect.  absolutely freakin perfect.  I know though,  i'm not looking to Asher to save anything or to be better. But this is unknown territory for me.  It's brand new and I'm excited.

Thank God they are so close together.  15 months apart.  They will be going through the same things- learning the same words, hopefully propelling each other on.  It won't be that big of a deal, because they are so close in age.  I'm hoping that as Asher begins to form his world into words, Elliot will be inspired.  He will be encouraged.  He will be believed in and excited.

With all that said, speech delays are shitty.  I know all kids have a difficult time communicating because they are learning and growing.  They get frustrated, but kids with speech delays are always sort of frustrated.  It's your job, as their parent, to help with that frustration but you are frustrated too.  You are tired of guessing, and then they tell you that it's not good to guess for them.  You need to give them the chance to say it, but they are freaking out because you can't guess what they want.  It's all this crazy cycle and it hurts.  It's sad.  But then there is the moment they say a new word or get really close and you scream and clap.  You dance around yelling "yay!" And you see the proud look on their face. Well, at least my son.  He is a sucker for attention and praise. ;)  (we are teaching him that not all clapping is for him.  sometimes you clap for other people too. hehe)

Elliot's therapy is going well.  He used to say "hi" and "bye" as "haaaa" and "bbaa" now he says "hi" and "bye."  Well, most of the time.  But at least I know that he can say it!

Here are Elliot and Asher at the same age- both right before they turned one!  I think they look so different.

1 comment:

  1. I understand your frustration. I have two boys as well (6 and 2.5 years) and my first was speech delayed. My youngest started talking a little on the late side also, but he was much faster than my first and since I'd already been through it, I was nowhere near as worried as with my first. We noticed with our oldest that he wasn't talking much at 1 yr and we started him in speech therapy at 20 months. However we taught him a lot of signs from age 8 months and he picked them up very easily. He was ahead in receptive language but far behind in expressive. The signs (he had about 50) really helped to ease frustration a lot. I can't tell you how much of a saving grace that was. I know it's really frustrating when you have friends with children younger than yours and they speak so much and so clearly. It is a shitty feeling. But, it does get better. My 6 year old never shuts up now and has an amazing vocabulary even though I felt like he would never get there when he was 2. He started picking up words so fast around 30 months and by the time he was 3 he didn't qualify for speech therapy services anymore.



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